As relationships begin to fail there are always signs to be on the lookout for. If you notice or experience any of the following, there is a good chance that your relationship might soon be over!
• All work and no play – While work schedules can get crazy at times for everyone, if you notice your partner frequently working late and/or over the weekends for what appears to be no real reason they may just be trying to avoid you.
• Avoiding time alone – In addition to immersing themselves into their work, you may find that it is impossible to even share a simple meal together. On the rare chance that you do manage to make plans, you can bet that your partner will most likely insist that several friends come along as well. Constantly inviting friends to come along is another tactic to avoid alone time with you!
• No talk of future plans – Whether it is plans for the weekend or just plans for dinner, don’t be surprised if the term “we” is no longer used. Dropping the “we” talk for the singular “I” is a big sign that your partner is trying to distance themselves from you and the relationship.
• The closeness is gone – If you start to feel that your partner is more like a roommate, that’s because they are. At this point in the relationship your partner has most likely done some serious work to distance themselves from the relationship as much as possible without actually ending it and/or moving out.
• No more sex – it is not completely unusual for couples to continue to have sex even as the relationship is falling apart. If you find yourself trying to remember the last time the two of you were intimate, you can bet things are pretty much over. Once things cease in the bedroom, you can bet the end of the relationship will soon follow.
As always, this is by no means a complete list. It is just intended to give you some signs to be on the lookout for if you feel your relationship might be headed for the rocks. It is also important to note that a single sign alone does not always indicate problems in the relationship. It is when several signs are present that you can bet rough waters might be soon ahead!
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Friday, May 13, 2011
Are You Dating a Gold Digger?
In keeping with this week’s “signs” theme, here are a few signs that you might be dating a Gold Digger:
• She is out of your league – If the usual women you attract/date are 5’s and 6’s and all of the sudden you find yourself dating a 10, it is very possible she is look at your wallet and not you. While this is not true in all cases, it is a good general indicator to watch for especially if additional signs follow.
• She never offers to pay – While paying for most things is the gentlemanly thing to do, if you find she never offers to pay (not ever for herself) there is a good chance she is looking for a Sugar Daddy to spoil her rotten.
• She is overly interested on how much you make – if your career and finances seem to be the focus of your conversations, especially when you first meet, there is a good chance she is try to size you up. Depending on your responses, if she is a Gold Digger, she will either be instantly in love with you or you will be quickly dismissed. Women looking for money typically don’t waste too much time chatting with guys that clearly don’t have it.
• She asks for gifts or money early in the relationship – From small tokens of affection to expensive jewelry, don’t be surprised if she is trying to spend your money as fast as she can get it. After all, you “love her” right? So why wouldn’t you want her to have “nice things”? – Note the sarcasm!
• She uses sex for gifts – you will quickly realize that if you hold on to the wallet too tight, you will be going to bed alone. You can bet the less you spend on her, the less willing she will be to have sex. Remember, it is your wallet that she really wants to spend time with, not you.
Remember, while it might be nice to have a piece of arm candy, unless you are willing to play Sugar Daddy she won’t be sticking around long. Just watch for the early signs and indicators and you will be alright. Ignore them and you might find yourself broke and lonely once all you money is gone!
• She is out of your league – If the usual women you attract/date are 5’s and 6’s and all of the sudden you find yourself dating a 10, it is very possible she is look at your wallet and not you. While this is not true in all cases, it is a good general indicator to watch for especially if additional signs follow.
• She never offers to pay – While paying for most things is the gentlemanly thing to do, if you find she never offers to pay (not ever for herself) there is a good chance she is looking for a Sugar Daddy to spoil her rotten.
• She is overly interested on how much you make – if your career and finances seem to be the focus of your conversations, especially when you first meet, there is a good chance she is try to size you up. Depending on your responses, if she is a Gold Digger, she will either be instantly in love with you or you will be quickly dismissed. Women looking for money typically don’t waste too much time chatting with guys that clearly don’t have it.
• She asks for gifts or money early in the relationship – From small tokens of affection to expensive jewelry, don’t be surprised if she is trying to spend your money as fast as she can get it. After all, you “love her” right? So why wouldn’t you want her to have “nice things”? – Note the sarcasm!
• She uses sex for gifts – you will quickly realize that if you hold on to the wallet too tight, you will be going to bed alone. You can bet the less you spend on her, the less willing she will be to have sex. Remember, it is your wallet that she really wants to spend time with, not you.
Remember, while it might be nice to have a piece of arm candy, unless you are willing to play Sugar Daddy she won’t be sticking around long. Just watch for the early signs and indicators and you will be alright. Ignore them and you might find yourself broke and lonely once all you money is gone!
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
5 Signs She’s Into You
Yesterday I posted “5 Signs She’s Not Into You”, so today I figured I would follow that up with 5 signs that she is into you!
• She asks question about your personal life – From how many siblings, to where you grew up, don’t be surprised if her questioning starts to sound a little like a background check. If she is interested, there is very little that she won’t want to know about you.
• She talks about doing future activities together – During a conversation if you hear phrases like “I have always wanted to try that” or “we should do that together”, you can bet that she is looking to spend more time with you. Just don’t be too surprised if she is interested in doing even the most boring activities with you too.
• She plays with her hair – We have all seen this one portrayed in the movies time and time again. Call it a nervous tic, or a form of subconscious flirting, but when a woman is interested in you she will most like play and twirl her hair while listening or talking with you.
• She laughs at even your bad jokes – As much as we want to believe that we are world-class standup comedians, let’s face it some of our jokes are bombs. Regardless of how bad the jokes you tell are, if she is interested, you will most like still receive a small courtesy laugh even if she didn’t think it was that funny.
• She finds excuses to touch you – whether it’s a smug on your cheek, a misplaced hair, or a folded/wrinkled cuff on your shirt, she will be the first one to notice and fix it. This allows her to make physical contact with you without being too overly obvious.
So there you have it, 5 signs she’s into you. Like the list before, this is by no means complete. It is simply a good starting point of signs to look for to help you determine if she is indeed interested.
Do you have any others you would like to add to the list? If so, let me hear them in the comments below!
• She asks question about your personal life – From how many siblings, to where you grew up, don’t be surprised if her questioning starts to sound a little like a background check. If she is interested, there is very little that she won’t want to know about you.
• She talks about doing future activities together – During a conversation if you hear phrases like “I have always wanted to try that” or “we should do that together”, you can bet that she is looking to spend more time with you. Just don’t be too surprised if she is interested in doing even the most boring activities with you too.
• She plays with her hair – We have all seen this one portrayed in the movies time and time again. Call it a nervous tic, or a form of subconscious flirting, but when a woman is interested in you she will most like play and twirl her hair while listening or talking with you.
• She laughs at even your bad jokes – As much as we want to believe that we are world-class standup comedians, let’s face it some of our jokes are bombs. Regardless of how bad the jokes you tell are, if she is interested, you will most like still receive a small courtesy laugh even if she didn’t think it was that funny.
• She finds excuses to touch you – whether it’s a smug on your cheek, a misplaced hair, or a folded/wrinkled cuff on your shirt, she will be the first one to notice and fix it. This allows her to make physical contact with you without being too overly obvious.
So there you have it, 5 signs she’s into you. Like the list before, this is by no means complete. It is simply a good starting point of signs to look for to help you determine if she is indeed interested.
Do you have any others you would like to add to the list? If so, let me hear them in the comments below!
Thursday, May 5, 2011
First Date Do’s and Don’ts
Here is a short list of first date do’s and don’ts that every guy should follow at the bare minimum. It is by no means a complete list, but is a good starting point for any first date.
The Do’s:
Do pay attention to your date – Remember, you are there to get to know each other. Pay attention to what she has to say. Listen closely to what she has to say and ask intelligent questions. Every woman likes a good listener and a man that can hold a conversation.
Do maintain good eye contact – Look your date in the eyes, this lets her know you are interested in hearing what she has to say, not just what she looks like. As tempting as it might be for your eyes to wander south, always remember the saying “eyes up here”. If you hear those words on your date, you have been caught and have most likely lost some serious points with your date.
Do plan out the date in advance – Be a man and take the lead. Show your date that you know how to have a good time and make plans/arrangements ahead of time. The last thing most women want to hear on a first date is “what would you like to do?”. Have a plan and a backup plan in the event your date just isn’t into the current activity/event. She will be impressed with how well you are prepared and flexible you can be.
Do meet in public – Ok, this is to benefit you both. While both parties always hope things will go smoothly, every once in a while you run across a few potential stalkers. Meeting in public allows either party to return home without the worry of having an unwanted and unexpected visitor later.
Do use humor – If you ask most women what they want in a man, a good sense of humor is always towards the top of the list. Don’t be afraid to tell a funny joke or story, just be tasteful. Make sure you stick to mainstream comedy if you are unsure if your date might take offense or not.
Do be a gentleman – Ok guys, you can score some serious point here. Open all doors (even car/taxi doors), pull out chairs, pay complements, etc. Women love to feel special and important, and by doing these basic things she will see you know how to treat her like a lady, not like one of the guys.
Do offer to pay – I know some might disagree with this one, but for me paying for the first date is a no brainer. Doing this lets your date know that you are not worried or thinking about the cost of the date, but are more interested in having a good time and focusing on her instead. This also gets back to being a gentleman, just do it and you will most likely be rewarded later down the road.
Do follow up after the date – If you both had a good time and you want there to be at least a second date, follow up the date with a phone call, email, or text (just don’t go overboard). Let you date know that you had a good time and are looking for to the next. Once again, women love to feel wanted and a simple follow up will do just that.
The Don’ts:
Don’t talk about past relationships – We all have past relationships, but a first date is not the time to talk about them. First dates should always be about getting to know each other, so stay focused on that. If things work out between you two there will be time later down the road to discuss pervious relationships.
Don’t be over physical – Guys, take your cues from your date. She will let you know what kind and how much physical contact she wants. It is always better to keep it in your pants on the first date than to scare her away by being overly physical.
Don’t get drunk – Ok, I wish I didn’t even have to include this one, but sometimes those first date jitters can push us to one drink too many. While it is ok to enjoy a few drinks with you date, just remember you are making a first impression. Play it cool and mix it up with non-alcoholic drinks throughout the night to make sure you don’t come off as a drunken idiot and blow it.
Don’t be a yes man – You are a man, it is ok to have an opinion. While I do not recommend arguing, it is ok to disagree with your date if you don’t share the same point of view on a topic. Agreeing to disagree shows a woman that you know how to standup for what you believe in, but that you don’t have to always be right.
Don’t checkout other women – This one should also be a no brainer. Remember you are out with your date and not the guys. If you are not interested in your date, it is much better to end the date early that to disrespect her by acting like a dog. Remember women love to talk and you never know when you might end up dating someone she knows down the road.
Don’t answer your cell phone – Unless your house is on fire, or someone is hurt, do not answer that cell phone. Once again, your attention should be focused on your date. Answering phone calls or texts during your date is distasteful and distracting. It is also a fast way to give your date the impression that you are not into her. Once again, if this is the case end the date early, don’t be disrespectful!
Ok, so there you have it. Like I said at the beginning this is by no means a complete list, but if you follow the advice listed about you are bound to have a more enjoyable first date experience than flying blind and winging it!
If you have some additional do’s and don’ts for first dates, let me hear them! Comments are always welcomed!
The Do’s:
Do pay attention to your date – Remember, you are there to get to know each other. Pay attention to what she has to say. Listen closely to what she has to say and ask intelligent questions. Every woman likes a good listener and a man that can hold a conversation.
Do maintain good eye contact – Look your date in the eyes, this lets her know you are interested in hearing what she has to say, not just what she looks like. As tempting as it might be for your eyes to wander south, always remember the saying “eyes up here”. If you hear those words on your date, you have been caught and have most likely lost some serious points with your date.
Do plan out the date in advance – Be a man and take the lead. Show your date that you know how to have a good time and make plans/arrangements ahead of time. The last thing most women want to hear on a first date is “what would you like to do?”. Have a plan and a backup plan in the event your date just isn’t into the current activity/event. She will be impressed with how well you are prepared and flexible you can be.
Do meet in public – Ok, this is to benefit you both. While both parties always hope things will go smoothly, every once in a while you run across a few potential stalkers. Meeting in public allows either party to return home without the worry of having an unwanted and unexpected visitor later.
Do use humor – If you ask most women what they want in a man, a good sense of humor is always towards the top of the list. Don’t be afraid to tell a funny joke or story, just be tasteful. Make sure you stick to mainstream comedy if you are unsure if your date might take offense or not.
Do be a gentleman – Ok guys, you can score some serious point here. Open all doors (even car/taxi doors), pull out chairs, pay complements, etc. Women love to feel special and important, and by doing these basic things she will see you know how to treat her like a lady, not like one of the guys.
Do offer to pay – I know some might disagree with this one, but for me paying for the first date is a no brainer. Doing this lets your date know that you are not worried or thinking about the cost of the date, but are more interested in having a good time and focusing on her instead. This also gets back to being a gentleman, just do it and you will most likely be rewarded later down the road.
Do follow up after the date – If you both had a good time and you want there to be at least a second date, follow up the date with a phone call, email, or text (just don’t go overboard). Let you date know that you had a good time and are looking for to the next. Once again, women love to feel wanted and a simple follow up will do just that.
The Don’ts:
Don’t talk about past relationships – We all have past relationships, but a first date is not the time to talk about them. First dates should always be about getting to know each other, so stay focused on that. If things work out between you two there will be time later down the road to discuss pervious relationships.
Don’t be over physical – Guys, take your cues from your date. She will let you know what kind and how much physical contact she wants. It is always better to keep it in your pants on the first date than to scare her away by being overly physical.
Don’t get drunk – Ok, I wish I didn’t even have to include this one, but sometimes those first date jitters can push us to one drink too many. While it is ok to enjoy a few drinks with you date, just remember you are making a first impression. Play it cool and mix it up with non-alcoholic drinks throughout the night to make sure you don’t come off as a drunken idiot and blow it.
Don’t be a yes man – You are a man, it is ok to have an opinion. While I do not recommend arguing, it is ok to disagree with your date if you don’t share the same point of view on a topic. Agreeing to disagree shows a woman that you know how to standup for what you believe in, but that you don’t have to always be right.
Don’t checkout other women – This one should also be a no brainer. Remember you are out with your date and not the guys. If you are not interested in your date, it is much better to end the date early that to disrespect her by acting like a dog. Remember women love to talk and you never know when you might end up dating someone she knows down the road.
Don’t answer your cell phone – Unless your house is on fire, or someone is hurt, do not answer that cell phone. Once again, your attention should be focused on your date. Answering phone calls or texts during your date is distasteful and distracting. It is also a fast way to give your date the impression that you are not into her. Once again, if this is the case end the date early, don’t be disrespectful!
Ok, so there you have it. Like I said at the beginning this is by no means a complete list, but if you follow the advice listed about you are bound to have a more enjoyable first date experience than flying blind and winging it!
If you have some additional do’s and don’ts for first dates, let me hear them! Comments are always welcomed!
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