Las Vegas Alone

So I have decided it is time for a much needed vacation, but one issue remains – where does a single guy go for vacation alone? Well after much thought and contemplation I have decided that Las Vegas is my solo destination of choice! I have been to Vegas numerous times in my life (never alone before) and always have an amazing time. Looking back at those trips, I realized that when you are in Vegas you are never truly alone! Everyone that goes there is typically in a good mood and excited to share the adventure. On the plane ride itself you can feel the energy and excitement of everyone around you onboard and might even make a few new friends before you even land. I am also a big craps player, and anyone that has played craps quickly realizes that you become instant friends with the others playing at your table (especially if it is a hot table!). In addition to that, in Las Vegas there is always something to do! It is not a place where you have to do the same thing every day. It is literally a place where you can basically do anything and everything day or night, so getting bored or lonely is not really an option! My trip is still a month and a half away, but I am already planning everything. Hotel is booked (staying at Excalibur which has excellent craps) and my plane ticket is all paid for! I will have to write a post/review once my solo trip is over, but in the meantime look for additional post leading up to the event (and maybe even a few post while in Vegas as well!). Until then, stay single my friends! - The Single Guy

First Date Ideas

Ok, so you have met someone, there could be a connection, but what do you do next? That’s simple, it’s first date time! Before you panic, here is a brief list of first date ideas that should keep the date moving and interesting, even if you find that your date is not!


• Go Bowling – Or do any other activity such as playing pool for that matter. Centering the date around something like a game will naturally keep things moving. So grab your bowling shoes, a pitcher of beer, and go knockdown some pins! You never know where the date will lead from there!

• Take a Hike – If you are both the outdoors type and happen to live near some great scenic areas, then by all means take a hike! Between the fresh air and the beautiful scenery, you are both bound to have a great time!

• Hit some balls at the Driving Range – That is if you both like golf! There is nothing better for stress relief than the driving range. It is also a place where you can both be a little silly, and if you are lucky you might just get ask to help her with her swing!

• See Live Music/Band – There is nothing like good music to really set a mood. Add a few drinks, and you never know where the night might lead. Play your cards right and it might lead from the dance floor to the bedroom!

• Try a New Cuisine/Restaurant – Who doesn’t like good food? Add the excitement of trying a new place along with a bottle (or two) of wine and before you know it the two of you will be chatting up a storm. If the rest of the date goes well you might even get invited in for a nightcap!


This list is by no means complete or perfect. It is simply to provide some jumping off points and ideas to keep you motivated and moving. A good I idea might be to even combine two or three events/ideas into a single date! Whatever you do, just remember to be yourself and have fun!

Good Luck!

Bad Pickup Lines – Friday Fun

Here are 20 random bad pickup lines that most of us have heard as a joke at some point. If you have actually ever used any of these lines, shame on you!


• Hey, do you work for UPS? I could have sworn I saw you checkin' out ma' package!

• I forgot my phone number. Can I have yours?

• I love every bone in your body... especially mine!

• Can I buy you a drink, or do you just want the money?

• Do I know you? Because I'm having a hard time recognizing you with your clothes on.

• Do you work at Subway? Because you are giving me a foot long.

• I'm new in town, could I have directions to your house.

• Just call me milk, I'll do your body good.

• Great legs, what time do they open?

• Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk past again?

• Well, here I am. What are your other two wishes?

• You're hot, I'm ugly. Let’s make average babies.

• I lost my virginity! Can I have yours?

• If I tossed this quarter, what are the chances of me getting head?

• That shirt is very becoming on you. If I was on you, I'd be coming too.

• I'm going to have sex with you tonight, you might as well be there to enjoy it!

• Want to play carnival? Sit on my face and I guess how much you weigh.

• Sex is a killer, want to die happy?

• Should I call you in the morning or nudge you?

• I'm a hurdle, do you want to jump me?


Please feel free to add additional bad pickup lines in the comments!

Being Single

While I do date occasionally, for all intents and purposes I am single and have been for quite some time now. My friends often ask me how I handle being single without getting too lonely, and I figured I would share my response with you.

I admit after being in a long-term committed relationship, it was tough being single at first. I realized the thing that helped the most was staying active. Rather than sitting at home by yourself, it is best to get out there and stay busy. Don’t be afraid to do the things you love alone, or invite a friend or family member along if you want to. It is also helpful to get active in any hobbies you might have, or have had in the past. This is also a great time to try new hobbies or activities that you might have always wanted to try too. As a bonus, doing this is also a great way to meet new people!

In addition to staying active, it also helps to accept that it is ok to be single. While having someone to share your life with is a wonderful experience, it by no means should be a requirement for happiness. Being single does not mean you are worthless, unattractive, unwanted, or any other negative thought that might fill you head. You have to push those thoughts aside and focus on yourself, and your own happiness as a single.

My next recommendation is to spend some serious time reflecting and reinvesting in yourself. Focus on your positive qualities and what you have to offer. Reflect on the good parts of past relationships along with any lessons you have learned from the bad and use this as an opportunity for self-improvement. When you find aspects of your life that you would like to change or improve, take the time to reinvest in yourself and follow the steps to make it happen.

It is also important to never forget the power of friends and family. Spending time with friends and loved ones is always a great cure for loneliness. Whether it is a family dinner or a night out with friends, the time will fly by while you are out having fun. If you are not in a position to visit or hangout in person, sometimes even a simple phone call can pass the time and do wonders for your spirit.

The key to all of this is to have fun! Single or not, life is what we make of it. Never let some ideology stand in your way of happiness. Enjoy life and live it to the fullest. Embrace being single and just have fun! Just don’t be too surprised when you turn around and find your next loving relationship is staring you right in the face!

Which do Women Prefer?

Alright ladies, which one do you honestly prefer and why? I mean time and time again it always seems like most of you at first gravitate to the bad boy instead of the gentleman. Why is this? Is it that we are not exciting enough? Do we lack a certain sort of mystery? Or is it that you are actually hoping to can change the bad boy into a bit of a gentleman and get the best of both worlds? If that is the case, good luck.

The funny thing is most of the women I know that now actually prefer gentlemen are because they dated the bad boy (or bad boys) at first and realized that after a while being continually treated like crap and being second best to his drinking buddies isn’t that fun in the long term.

I know we as gentleman are a bit predictable and less mysterious, but isn’t there something to be said about a man that is willing to put his woman above all else and love and cherish her wholeheartedly?

I guess that is just part of the curse of the gentleman. We may not get to be your first love, but we often do get to be your last love!

Dating In Your Thirties

How many of you out there would agree that dating in your thirties is a completely different experience than when you were younger? Maybe it is just me, but I often find that dating at this age is much more like going on a job interview, which is never fun.

When we were young, we really didn’t care about all of the “adult” stuff that matters so much to us now. Back them dating was simple, exciting, and most of all fun! It was all about passion, adventure, and exploration. Nothing else seemed to matter back then, nor did we let anything get in our way.

And now, in our thirties, it is completely different. The “adult” things that didn’t matter before seem to be the only things that matter now. It is all about being able to see a future with your date, and if not, it is game over. No exploration, adventure, or passion.

How sad is that? Should we really let love become a job? Should we rule out potential mates purely because they do not meet our “adult” needs? How about passion, adventure, and the process of exploring each other?

What do you think? Is dating still fun for you? Have you let the “adult” things get in your way of having fun with dating in your thirties?

What Women Say

Here is a list of the top 10 things I have been told by women who are already in a relationship to try and make me feel better about myself:

1. I don’t understand why you are still single

2. If I was single I would date you

3. You just haven’t found the right one yet

4. She is out there, just keep looking

5. You are going to make some lucky lady very happy someday

6. You are just too nice

7. You will find her as soon as you stop looking

8. It’s just not your time

9. You are just too good for most girls

10. It’s their loss, you are a great catch

How many of you out there have heard any of these lines before? Any new ones that you have head to add to the list? Let me hear them!

Rich and Single, or In Love and Broke?

First let me start off by stating I am by no means broke, nor am I rich. I would have to say most months of the year I am financially comfortable at best. But one question often enters my mind, if I had to choose between being broke and in a loving relationship, or being wealthy and alone, which would I actually choose.

At first, the thought of being financially rich sounds pretty appealing. I mean, I am already single and have been for quite some time now, so why not take the money? But after really thinking about it, I just don’t know if I would ever honestly choose to be single forever. Yes, the money would be nice, but I am already pretty lonely and no amount of money could provide any real lasting cure for that. Every relationship that you would have would be based on money and not the man actually underneath it. And as we know, shallow and superficial relationships never last.

But being broke would also have some serious downsides too. Yes, I would be happy and in love, but I would also be stressed with struggling to make ends meet to provide for my family. I know there is a lot to be said about the power of love and the strength it can provide in times of struggle, but I just don’t know if I would actually be any happier. And let’s not forget that most relationships usually end because of finical difficulties/stress.

To be honest, I just don’t know if there really is an answer to this question. I guess the answer is to be fortunate for what I do have and thankful for what I don’t. After all, I am who I am, and all my life experiences up to this point are what have made me the man that I am today. I wouldn’t trade that for anything in the world.

How about you? How would you answer the question?

The Third Wheel

Oh yes, one of the biggest joys (note the sarcasm) of being single and hanging out with friends who are in relationships is getting to be the “third wheel”. Being in my thirties, I now find that the majority of my friends are in relationships and I am one of the very few in my circle of friends that is not. This means everywhere we go, I am left as the odd man out. Dinners, parties, clubs, you name it; there is always a feeling of them vs. me. This is especially noticed when I am in need of a wingman. When you are out with couples, there is no such thing as a good wingman. And to make matters worse, when single ladies see you hanging out with friends in relationships they often wonder what is wrong with you and begin to speculate on how damaged you must be. The only other option is to go out alone, but this too sucks. Going to the bar alone often make a guy look either creepy or desperate, neither of which attract women. It just often seems like a losing battle.

So I ask you, what is the solution? Any other “third wheels” out there that know what I am going through? And if so, any tips or tricks you might be able to share? If you were a third wheel, but are now in a relationship how did you pull it off?

Tips, comments, suggestions, all are welcome!

Too Shy for My Own Good

So Friday night has come and gone once again and here I am with another story to tell. As usual I put on my façade and headed out for a night of drinking in order to muster up some courage to talk to the ladies. After several drinks I finally managed to approach a rather attractive woman who I had chatting with before. Looking back now, I kind of wished I would have left it along and here is why.

In our past encounter I had managed to get her number, but of course I never used it. During this conversation I managed to remind her that I had her number and she was swift to tell me that I lost the right to use it as I had waited so long. I did not let this deter me, as the liquid courage had me feeling quite confident. After several more minutes of flirting I managed to get her approval once again. We flirted back and forth for the rest of the evening as I continued to consume more and more courage enhancing beverages.

I let her know I was attracted to her and that I was extremely shy, which is why I never contacted her. She seemed surprised by this, but at the same time flattered. Things continued to appear to go seemingly well for the rest of the night, that is until I got home.

Being the courage filled idiot I decided I should go ahead and use that magical number which she had gave me, but being rather late I opted for texting instead of a call. We passed a few texts back and forth and I continued to dig myself deeper and deeper. I finally decided I should stop and go ahead and pass out for the night.

The next morning I decided to reread the messages from the night, and that is when the horror set in. Apparently my liquid courage had gotten the best of me, not only had I proceeded to sound like a drunken idiot, I also made some promises that I knew I could not keep. Leave it to me to become way over confident while drinking to not realize I would have to possibly interact with her sober.

So that is where I am at, I had an interesting night, did some positive flirting, made and ass of myself, and am now trying to crawl back into my hole. It is the shyness that creates these problems for me. If I could just get over being shy, I would not over compensate with alcohol and put myself into these situations. But that is me, and this is who I am. Too shy for my own good, but too foolish to change, I guess that’s what makes me The Single Guy.

A Brief Introduction and Background

Ok, so here it goes. This is my first post and it may take some time to get this right. With that said, let’s start with a little background.

I am The Single Guy, and this is my attempt to chronicle my life (past, present, and future) through stories, events, rants, hopes, and everything else that is me. I tend to have unique points of view and philosophy’s that make me who I am. In all honestly, that is most likely a big reason as to why I am single and continually lonely. I am the type that likes to get in their own way and is constantly living inside my own head, as you will begin to see in future post. Please feel free to leave comments or ask questions on anything you see or read here. I am hoping this will wind up being a partially interactive journey for all those along for the ride. Ok, enough intro and background for now…Now it’s time to get this thing started! Stay tuned!