First Date Ideas

Ok, so you have met someone, there could be a connection, but what do you do next? That’s simple, it’s first date time! Before you panic, here is a brief list of first date ideas that should keep the date moving and interesting, even if you find that your date is not!


• Go Bowling – Or do any other activity such as playing pool for that matter. Centering the date around something like a game will naturally keep things moving. So grab your bowling shoes, a pitcher of beer, and go knockdown some pins! You never know where the date will lead from there!

• Take a Hike – If you are both the outdoors type and happen to live near some great scenic areas, then by all means take a hike! Between the fresh air and the beautiful scenery, you are both bound to have a great time!

• Hit some balls at the Driving Range – That is if you both like golf! There is nothing better for stress relief than the driving range. It is also a place where you can both be a little silly, and if you are lucky you might just get ask to help her with her swing!

• See Live Music/Band – There is nothing like good music to really set a mood. Add a few drinks, and you never know where the night might lead. Play your cards right and it might lead from the dance floor to the bedroom!

• Try a New Cuisine/Restaurant – Who doesn’t like good food? Add the excitement of trying a new place along with a bottle (or two) of wine and before you know it the two of you will be chatting up a storm. If the rest of the date goes well you might even get invited in for a nightcap!


This list is by no means complete or perfect. It is simply to provide some jumping off points and ideas to keep you motivated and moving. A good I idea might be to even combine two or three events/ideas into a single date! Whatever you do, just remember to be yourself and have fun!

Good Luck!

Anything for Love

If you ask me, there is nothing more special and more important than love! I am the type of person that loves with their entire being, and would do just about anything to save it.

What about you, would you do anything to save love? And if so, how far would you be willing to go? Would you be willing to risk your own personal health and safety? Would you be willing to lie, steal, cheat, and possibly kill to save it? How far is far enough? Is there such thing as going too far?

I believe love is always worth fighting for! While I would never go as far as breaking any laws or actually hurting anyone, there really isn’t much else I wouldn’t do to try and save love. I just cannot give up and walk away from love without fighting to the very end for it.

In my past relationship, which lasted over 9 years, I did just that. I did just about anything to try and save it. I turned my whole life upside down for her and the love we shared. I just could not walk away until I knew I had given it my all. I fought and fought to save our relationship and love until there was literally nothing left of it. It was only then, once I knew every last ounce of love was gone between us, that I could move on. I wanted to make sure that I would never have any regrets for giving up on our love too soon. Believe it or not, once I had finally reached this place it was extremely easy to walk away for good.

If you ask me, if someone is not willing to fight to save love I have to wonder if they were truly in love in the first place. I honestly don’t believe love should ever been easy to walk away from without fighting for it first. And I did just that!

What about you? Does anyone out there have a story of how they fought for love? Did you give up easily? Did you actually save it? Or did you just walk away?

What Women Say

Here is a list of the top 10 things I have been told by women who are already in a relationship to try and make me feel better about myself:

1. I don’t understand why you are still single

2. If I was single I would date you

3. You just haven’t found the right one yet

4. She is out there, just keep looking

5. You are going to make some lucky lady very happy someday

6. You are just too nice

7. You will find her as soon as you stop looking

8. It’s just not your time

9. You are just too good for most girls

10. It’s their loss, you are a great catch

How many of you out there have heard any of these lines before? Any new ones that you have head to add to the list? Let me hear them!

First Love

It happened my junior year of high school. I had known her since 8th grade (she was in 7th), but never really took much notice until then. Actually that is not entirely true, toward the end of my sophomore year when she was a freshman I did indeed begin my crush but she was taken then. So fast-forward back to my junior year and the relationship that was my first love.

Let me start by saying she was amazing. She was beyond beautiful and what I felt was way out of my league, yet somehow I won. She would turn out to be one of only two people thus far to really get to look inside of me. She actually saw beyond my façade at the time and actually liked what she saw. To be honest I wasn’t as jaded back then as I am now. Back then I was still very much shy and reclusive, but also filled with hope and delusional ideas of romance and love. It is those qualities that she fell for, but little did I know she would also windup being partially responsible for the death of those qualities as well.

The first year when great! We did everything together and couldn’t bear to spend much time if any apart (the joys of young love). She desired me as much as I did her, which was an incredible feeling to say the least, but little did I know such things are never meant to last. There was nothing I would not do for her. I brought her flowers and small gifts randomly, took her places, and pretty much spoiled her rotten. She was my queen and I her fool. I thought I had found my fairytale and was ready to live happily ever after, or so I hoped.

The second year of our relationship was interesting to say the least. Due to a family issue, she needed to graduate with me. I worked my magic with the school counselor and got her into the classes need to make that happen. For a short time I was her hero, but that did not last long. As the year progressed, she began to become more demanding. No longer were my flowers and gifts surprises of delight, they in fact had become items of expectations and demands. If she thought I was going to bring her something and I didn’t, the fight was on. I had created a true queen with demands and all.

The last six months of what was left of the relationship was hell. I was still madly in love with her, or at least the fairytale idea anyways. I continued to try everything to keep her happy even if that meant hurting myself. I tried and I tried the whole time slowly feeling her slip away, but still I lost the fight. She no longer had time for the fool that was me; after all she was a queen now and needed to find her king.

So there I was, crushed and broken. The fairytale story over without the fairytale ending. And so it began. I vowed to never create another queen unless I was also the king. I was done being a fool, but I was also done with hope of a happily ever after. The relationship had left me forever changed and damaged in ways that could not be repaired.

These issues would come to surface in another relationship a few years later, but that’s another story.