Las Vegas Alone

So I have decided it is time for a much needed vacation, but one issue remains – where does a single guy go for vacation alone? Well after much thought and contemplation I have decided that Las Vegas is my solo destination of choice! I have been to Vegas numerous times in my life (never alone before) and always have an amazing time. Looking back at those trips, I realized that when you are in Vegas you are never truly alone! Everyone that goes there is typically in a good mood and excited to share the adventure. On the plane ride itself you can feel the energy and excitement of everyone around you onboard and might even make a few new friends before you even land. I am also a big craps player, and anyone that has played craps quickly realizes that you become instant friends with the others playing at your table (especially if it is a hot table!). In addition to that, in Las Vegas there is always something to do! It is not a place where you have to do the same thing every day. It is literally a place where you can basically do anything and everything day or night, so getting bored or lonely is not really an option! My trip is still a month and a half away, but I am already planning everything. Hotel is booked (staying at Excalibur which has excellent craps) and my plane ticket is all paid for! I will have to write a post/review once my solo trip is over, but in the meantime look for additional post leading up to the event (and maybe even a few post while in Vegas as well!). Until then, stay single my friends! - The Single Guy

Dating for the Shy Guy

Here are two things that never work together, dating and being a shy guy. Most notably a shy guy that is excellent at living inside his head and getting in his own way. Let’s just say dating, or the idea of it, is almost a joke to me.

Don’t get me wrong I would love to have an active dating life, but for me that just doesn’t seem possible. Even with my façade in place I still cannot seem to push past the shyness to make the initial contact. How sad is that? I am by no means a bad looking guy; in fact I am often told I am quite attractive by female friends and colleagues. The issue is, regardless of my appearance, if a man does not approach a woman first nothing will ever happen. That is where I shutdown. The sheer thought of being rejected, criticized, or possibly laughed at instantly paralyzes me in fear. So what do I do next? I run and hide inside of my own head and rationalize my behavior. I reassure myself that it is better this way. Beside if she did say yes, who would she be saying yes to? Certainly not the real me who is hidden deep behind the façade, no one would want to see that person, would they? Shallow and superficial, that’s what people are, right? So why not return the behavior? Better yet, don’t behave at all. Be nothing, show nothing, withdraw, and hide my own world.

But for some reason I cannot give up completely. I still go out, make myself seem, and use my charm the whole time hoping she is out there. The one that will find me, see through my façade, and want the real me. I know I am still in here somewhere. Perhaps if she looks deep enough long enough she could pull me back to reality. Help me to discard my façade, and shine once again and forever.

But this is my reality. I doubt she is out there and more importantly I doubt she would ever approach me first. So here I am, stuck in the shell of existence. Not really sad, but never really happy. More than anything I am really just lonely.