As relationships begin to fail there are always signs to be on the lookout for. If you notice or experience any of the following, there is a good chance that your relationship might soon be over!
• All work and no play – While work schedules can get crazy at times for everyone, if you notice your partner frequently working late and/or over the weekends for what appears to be no real reason they may just be trying to avoid you.
• Avoiding time alone – In addition to immersing themselves into their work, you may find that it is impossible to even share a simple meal together. On the rare chance that you do manage to make plans, you can bet that your partner will most likely insist that several friends come along as well. Constantly inviting friends to come along is another tactic to avoid alone time with you!
• No talk of future plans – Whether it is plans for the weekend or just plans for dinner, don’t be surprised if the term “we” is no longer used. Dropping the “we” talk for the singular “I” is a big sign that your partner is trying to distance themselves from you and the relationship.
• The closeness is gone – If you start to feel that your partner is more like a roommate, that’s because they are. At this point in the relationship your partner has most likely done some serious work to distance themselves from the relationship as much as possible without actually ending it and/or moving out.
• No more sex – it is not completely unusual for couples to continue to have sex even as the relationship is falling apart. If you find yourself trying to remember the last time the two of you were intimate, you can bet things are pretty much over. Once things cease in the bedroom, you can bet the end of the relationship will soon follow.
As always, this is by no means a complete list. It is just intended to give you some signs to be on the lookout for if you feel your relationship might be headed for the rocks. It is also important to note that a single sign alone does not always indicate problems in the relationship. It is when several signs are present that you can bet rough waters might be soon ahead!
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Friday, May 13, 2011
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
Rebound Dating
Ok, so I was reading some online dating forums the other day and kept running across comments regarding rebound dating. More specifically, most of the comments seemed to indicate that it is fairly common to go on a first date only to find out that the person they met had only been single for a short time, and should not be dating at all.
After reading all these comments, I was left with several questions regarding rebound dating and if and when it is appropriate. It appears that there are a few schools of thought when it comes to this topic.
One of the most common thoughts on this was the “get right back out there” or “back on the horse” approach. Apparently if the pervious relationship was not that serious, or was a fairly short duration, a lot of people seem to recommend getting back on the horse as soon as possible and start dating again. From the comments it seems doing this helps people to see that there are other fish in the sea and that it is ok to move on quickly.
The second approach seemed to apply to long-term relationship that were considers more serious. According to the comments, it appears in cases like this it is indeed best to take a break from dating while you recover from the breakup. What I found most interesting about this approach was that it was not nearly as cut and dry as the other. While almost all comments recommended taking a break, there did not seem to be a consensus as to how long to wait before dating again was appropriate. Some recommended only a few weeks or months, while others used more of a formula based approach recommending that it takes half as long as the relationship last to completely heal. I found this formula approach extremely intriguing, because if you had been in a relationship for say 10 years, it would require you to wait 5 years before you could say you are truly over your ex and ready to move on.
While I have been through a few breakups myself, I don’t know if I have enough experience to comment on which approach I feel is right. For me, I have always felt that I need a least a little break from dating once a relationship has ended, even if it was nothing serious. I have also gone through a long-term breakup and don’t know if I actually waited long enough before trying to date again. I think the reality is that this is not something that is cut and dry. I believe that in most cases everyone is different, as thus requires a different amount of time before moving on.
How about you? Have you ever been a victim of rebound dating? Have you ever been the one on the rebound and trying to date to get past someone? Do you think you can define how long someone should wait before trying to date again? Is there a formula that actually works for everyone in every case?
If you have a relating story to share, I would love to hear it!
After reading all these comments, I was left with several questions regarding rebound dating and if and when it is appropriate. It appears that there are a few schools of thought when it comes to this topic.
One of the most common thoughts on this was the “get right back out there” or “back on the horse” approach. Apparently if the pervious relationship was not that serious, or was a fairly short duration, a lot of people seem to recommend getting back on the horse as soon as possible and start dating again. From the comments it seems doing this helps people to see that there are other fish in the sea and that it is ok to move on quickly.
The second approach seemed to apply to long-term relationship that were considers more serious. According to the comments, it appears in cases like this it is indeed best to take a break from dating while you recover from the breakup. What I found most interesting about this approach was that it was not nearly as cut and dry as the other. While almost all comments recommended taking a break, there did not seem to be a consensus as to how long to wait before dating again was appropriate. Some recommended only a few weeks or months, while others used more of a formula based approach recommending that it takes half as long as the relationship last to completely heal. I found this formula approach extremely intriguing, because if you had been in a relationship for say 10 years, it would require you to wait 5 years before you could say you are truly over your ex and ready to move on.
While I have been through a few breakups myself, I don’t know if I have enough experience to comment on which approach I feel is right. For me, I have always felt that I need a least a little break from dating once a relationship has ended, even if it was nothing serious. I have also gone through a long-term breakup and don’t know if I actually waited long enough before trying to date again. I think the reality is that this is not something that is cut and dry. I believe that in most cases everyone is different, as thus requires a different amount of time before moving on.
How about you? Have you ever been a victim of rebound dating? Have you ever been the one on the rebound and trying to date to get past someone? Do you think you can define how long someone should wait before trying to date again? Is there a formula that actually works for everyone in every case?
If you have a relating story to share, I would love to hear it!
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